"A confused girl.
Im 15 i will be 16 in october. and i meet this guy and we started out dating thinking that we would break up very soon. he gave it 2 weeks and i gave it a month.hes 17 and its been 3months now and hes ask to marry him. and i said yes. but hes joined the army and he left for basic june 24 and its july 6th now. and where suppose to get married in december. but where thinking about getting married sooner. and he wants to have a baby now. i dont know what to do im so confussed. i dont even know if i want to go through with it anymore. but im not going to leave him."
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I'll See What I can do, because i am in about the exact same situation.
for starters, if you say that it's only going to last a certain amount of time right from the start, your setting yourself up for a world of hurt.

second, i'm going to be very blunt.
from what you have described, a baby is completely out of the question. PERIOD. it's more than likely that you are either unemployed or make so little that there is no way to care for yourself and a baby.
did you know that is costs almost $10,000/ year
to care for a baby? and that a minimum

Third, wait to marry. because of two things. A. you arent even old enough to legally marry (even in Las Vegas) i'm not saying leave him or even call off the engagement, all i am saying is put the actual wedding later in time.

i am in the army as well and it's tough especially for the people that have to wait for your return

if you or anyone else, would like further advice on this or any other problem, or just to chat, just e-mail me.
just have the subject read :ADVICE
nakarageryu@hotmail.com

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Is it acceptable for me to refuse to attend family events at this specific sister's home?